Round Table
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Worthiness Is Within Week #10 (I will be posting all lessons within the next two weeks and will let you know when I do).
Video – https://s3.amazonaws.com/recoverylifemanagement/WWE10.mp4
Exercise – https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdUeYYD1Eab67UDcZhGjqJkkzYD-flhr68UO0WATjETAqL0xA/viewform?usp=sf_link -
Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Had a rare, extremely out of character expression of anger at work tonight with my supervisors that I think shocked them (shocked me anyway) and that I’m replaying over and over in my head. Not sure how to feel about it. I feel some regret while also recognizing that what’s said is said and it must’ve happened for a reason. I also notice my…[Read more]
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Thank you for sharing and want to support you in not making yourself wrong. I really liked that you expressed yourself. Often when we don’t and then we do there is a learning curve of what that looks like. So don’t be too hard on yourself with what the expression looked like. The more you do it the more you will find your way of expression. When I…[Read more]
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Thank you for the support. I feel ok about it. I was less embarrassed about the shakiness than I have been in the past. I had to consciously decide to let that go and it actually worked. If I had to guess, I’d say expressing myself felt more empowering than anything else.
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Wes, I am glad you can externalize your experience here in a safe place and give such important expression to what is. Open, Honest, Vulnerable as you find your way in being your best self. Life lessons sure happen to refine us. Protest is a sign of healing…….so is vomiting….( not to be funny but true). Glad to witness your journey of…[Read more]
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You’re so right. This one life lesson seems to be having a healing effect ever since it happened a few days ago. Something is shifting.
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Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
When I listened to the last call about unfinished business I knew exactly what I need to complete, but it feels so big. And I know Bev said it doesn’t matter big or small, but I thought of all the other unfinished business things I could work on like procrastination, ending a unhealthy relationship with my ex-boyfriend, my food behaviors…etc.…[Read more]
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Great awareness that you know exactly what needs to be resolved! If this is what you decide to do, we’re all here to support you in resolving it. Know you can do it. And have an awesome birthday (turning 43 this year too)!
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Thank you Wes! Your support means a lot! Here’s to 43 being our best year yet 😉
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Happy birthday Jane! And how powerful is it that this awareness is coming in on your birthday. Wow! I get that this feels big and I also see how it leads into the other unfinished business you have so this seems like an empowering issue to resolve for your soul. We can take this one small step at a time. This may be a similar process that I…[Read more]
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Thanks Bev! Yes, the timing around my birthday is clearly no coincidence! Thank you for the coaching on ways to start/continue this process…I am going to practice the meditation Wes shared and look for a book about my inner child too and see where the Universe guides me from there. So grateful for the gift of this space you’ve given us and the…[Read more]
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You are loved and supported and ready to heal your Inner Child. Holding her tight!
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Jane, I am glad you are here and celebrating another year around the sun. Happy 43. I admire your courage and desire for wholeness. I stand with you as you look toward this little one that has carried a big load of abandonment. Simply with you in this outer circle as you examine what is in your inner circle. Sending love…..
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Thank you Tami, receiving the love <3
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Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
2. How does this unfinished business show up in your current life?
My old story shows up in my current life, most prominently, in my anxiety. It used to be depression, and still frequently is, but anxiety has been more prevalent and extreme this year. Anxiety results from fear based living. When I notice it, I’m making a choice that does…[Read more]
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I’m wondering if this starts as fear-based thinking and then affects your living (which is what you got to you in your writing). You sound clear of where it shows up and how it shows up. If you are open to it…seems like writing out the life you intend to experience (like we discuss on the call) would continue to be beneficial as it puts you in…[Read more]
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And you can continue with the questions and see what comes up!
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Sounds great! Thanks for the feedback.
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Wes, this is awesome. Thank you for your courage to share openly. Helps to know I’m not alone. I can relate.
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Thanks for sharing Karen. Appreciate hearing how you resonate with my experience and that we have much in common
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Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
1. Identify an area of unfinished business you would like to complete.
I am enthusiastically resolving the story in my mind and updating and reframing it so its in alignment with the truth of who I am today in my life. I found a quote from a book called Embers by Richard Wagamese that beautifully captures my intention behind resolving this. “…[Read more]
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Great quote!
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I love this quote too! I feel like that’s so true, that we identify as being the warts, rather than the frog wearing them. And then going a step further to see that the frog wearing the warts is the prince, regardless of how he appears to others. They are one in the same. Beautiful!
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And I like the part about the darkness only serves to highlight the light/truth <3
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Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
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Glad you liked it. The book is full of pages with passages like this one. And its an easy, quick read. The line that begins “I’m basking in the light of my own recovery…” is probably my favorite. I love the imagery of the light as well as the theme of recovery of self as spirit, or recovery of my true self (just a personal interpretation).
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
I’m so proud of the profound soul work you all are doing. Stay course!
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Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
My new story starts with my breath. Watching it when I can. With compassion and without judgment. This ties into my yoga classes I’ve been attending recently and fairly regularly. Each class is like a microcosm of my process. I practice compassion and nonjudgment as I challenge myself to enter my body, to accept it, through the poses.…[Read more]
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Wes!! I am blown away. Honestly, reading this made my eyes fill with tears and I felt such a feeling of truth in my body that this feels so in alignment with who you are and my experience of you. The work you have done has inspired me since I’ve known you here. 🙂
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Favorite line…”Doesn’t matter if others see it so long as I know it.” THIS!!! It has nothing to do with others and everything to do with you owning and accepting the knowing of it and living it. Beautiful process!
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Such great feedback! Thank you. This was just what came up for me when I sat down to write and rather than over think the process or judge myself as doing the worksheet “wrong”, I just decided to share it because it felt like truth to me too, Jane! Excited about returning to this process later today with curiousity and nonattachment to how…[Read more]
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Never a “wrong” way to do it because there’s always valuable info that comes up for us to learn from. Keep letting go!
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YES YES YES! So wonderful!
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Doesn’t matter if others see it so long as I know it, and live my life from that knowingness…. Love this statement. I am witnessing you companioning yourself toward what is to be known. Holding the circle of support and you traverse the inner landscape.
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Masterminding with a good friend and my husband today. Looking forward to the connection and to listening for what wants to be co-created right now. Then headed over to my sister’s house for some lunch and a football game. Appreciative of it all.
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Tami Coil posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Karen, I listened to the July call this week and your transparency dealing with your judgements helped me to see that the child (you or me) isn’t the problem the experience of not being cared for, loved and attached is the problem. I could relate with a me too of my parents only showing conditional love, especially my father. It helped me to turn…[Read more]
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Precisely why I love the paradigm that healing impacts us all. We can witness in others and experience it in ourselves. It’s universal and all meaningful!
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Tami, so glad it helped. Yes, one of the things I’ve learned (and grieved over) is that I carried a weight of shame for so long that the reason my parents struggled was because of me and I tried hard to be more perfect so they would “get better.” When, in fact, it was just that their struggles that were totally unrelated to me affected their…[Read more]
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Karen, I am witnessing you telling your truth of goodness and doing the work to belong to you. Personal Agency apart from Mom and Dad’s process. I wish a class in school was taught at an early age that we don’t have to carry parent’s unfinished business. As young’ins we just knew to absorb without any protection. And here we are today in this ci…[Read more]
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Tami Coil posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Jane, I am glad you can name and externalize them. This is just the story of the judger isn’t it? Now, on to the rest of the process with you but in my own lane. I would like to put my judger with your judger and send them over a cliff….. But we know that without changing their story, they will come back at us in an airplane that they landed on.…[Read more]
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Thank you Tami! I love the Thelma & Louise reference 😀 It is something to externalize the judgements and see them as stories rather than truths. Now to continue that shift. You bring such a level of peace & soothing to this process, glad to be in this with you too.
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We need each other to hold the circle of growth-repair. We still have to do our own work but it helps to have others doing the same process. Grateful.
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This exchange is so beautiful!
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Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Finally sharing my judgements from the first call.. been noticing them as they come up. They are not always there, they feel less heavy than before but still there under the surface, in how I show up sometimes, in decisions I make or don’t make, in what I expect from life or other people.
I judge my body as too fat and gross and ugly.
I judge…[Read more]-
I really relate to the sometimes subtleness of judgments and sometimes not subtle at all. Judgments are so hard to witness. I truly feel the sting of them and know how deep that harshness can go. Reading these makes me feel so much compassion for your experience. Gentleness comes up for me.
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I could feel the harshness reading them back to myself, even though as thoughts in my head I don’t recognize that harshness when I’m telling myself these things. But witnessing them outside of myself I felt compassion toward the girl that’s been telling herself these things her whole life. And a desire to be more gentle with myself.
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That’s such a win Jane to have that awareness of..Whoa, I’m being really harsh with myself and intend to be more kind and gentle. Next steps are catching the harshness and bringing in the gentleness. You won’t be perfect at this and you won’t want to strive for that but imagine catching yourself sooner even a couple of times a day. Over time, this…[Read more]
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Beautiful process Jane. I share a lot of these same judgments in my old story. As I read through your post, it brought up a lot of compassion for the human condition and the awareness that it is all part of my spiritual curriculum. I’m open to the learning that these judgments are here to remind me of my divinity and the more I align with it…[Read more]
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
What’s the unfinished business you are working on?
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Honestly, its trying to narrow down the vast amount of unfinished business I have ahead of me into just one piece of business that I can start working on now… At the same time, I know completing one area of unresolved business will resolve other areas as well so I need to stop over thinking this.
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From our call, we discussed you resolving the story in your mind and creating a new one that you can practice and pull from each and every day. That feels really applicable to any other piece of unfinished business. Would you say that’s true for you?
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There was so much that came up in the call that I was planning to rewatch it to remind myself but, yeah, now that you mention it, that seems like the direction I need to go. It also seems like a lot, meaning where do I start with resolving not just an unresolved issue or belief but an entire story?
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Where would you like to start when it comes to creating a newer and updated story line for yourself that is more in alignment with where you are today in your life?
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I am working on the truth of being a Spiritual Being having a Human Experience. How does this tie into my healing modality of Internal Family Systems…..just getting curious and creative. I tend to ” make things known” through image- like creating a art piece. So I am re-doing a 78 record that is bigger than my 45 records. So this is my True…[Read more]
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Incredible Tami. You are doing “the work.”
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I now need to write my new stories to bring the new code/story into conscious focus. I burnt the old statement but the new ones didn’t magically appear under my pillow this morning. Darn it!
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Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Such a great, insightful,and healing connection on today’s call. Gonna watch it again. Loved acknowledging what’s going right for me and hearing that reflected back to me in your experience of me. And the card pull really intrigued me. When you pulled the children card, my mind didn’t even go to inner child despite my mediation yesterday.…[Read more]
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Recording from our call today: https://s3.amazonaws.com/recoverylifemanagement/RLLOctober218.mp4
Worksheet: https://s3.amazonaws.com/recoverylifemanagement/Finishing+Unfinished+Business.pdf -
Tami Coil posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
What a wonderful time on the call today. Validating, Insightful and Encouraging. One of my struggles with Conventional Recovery was that it lead me outside of myself. Beverly, You put so much care and insight into these worksheets. They offer guardrails to me to follow the breadcrumbs to the parts of myself that have been misunderstood or…[Read more]
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
I love how in the space of healing and soul work there feels like there is no gender. I lose sight of man and women and feel we are all beings who can share honestly, truthfully and vulnerability. I love how healing work and the loving cross all human barriers and go the heart of the matter.
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Realized this week that I’ve written 10,000 words towards my 50,000 word book. Feels like a win:)
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
You all are wonderful beings. I so appreciate your words, your insights and your presence to one another. I feel so seen and heard here. Thank you from the deepest part of my being.
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Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
Hopping on shortly! Join URL: https://zoom.us/j/577120726
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Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 6 months ago
I did an inner child meditation today. During the meditation, I was prompted to become aware of any discomfort or unease in my body, like we were talking about a few days back in the lab. My attention went to my left shoulder and upper back that I’ve been rehabbing with physio for the past 4 days. It asked me to listen to any feelings that mi…[Read more]
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So great! It’s cool how lifting weights is correlating with your life experience and body. Also appreciate how present you were in this Inner Child meditation which shows tremendous growth on your part. Yes, your Inner Child needs to know you won’t abandon him like others did. Keep going back until he feels resolved.
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Wes, your sharing is sacred and beautiful to witness.
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Thank you both for witnessing my process and holding space for me to explore and heal these unresolved issues. Something like this would have felt incredibly vulnerable to share anywhere else. Here, it just feels right.
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