Round Table
-
Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 1 month ago
Tami….we will cover mindset this month and wanted your feedback on what specifically you wanted to know or talk about when it comes to mindset. Please share!!! And other’s can share questions or thoughts as well, of course…:)
-
Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 1 month ago
Happy Sunday everyone! I was reviewing my list of up levels for this year, and one of them is reaching out and being open to more/new connections with people and another is trying new experiences etc.. So I’ve been volunteering with the Humane Society in my town and helping with some fundraising events since last November. I’ve struggled with…[Read more]
-
So happy for you. I love that you are being brave and claiming new experiences and connections. You do belong. š Keep on rocking it, sister.
-
You absolutely belong! And I’m so proud of you for going over your list of intentions and proactively participating in your life.
-
Wow, so cool! That is something Iāve been wanting to do, but Iām terrified. Thank you for sharing your positive experience.
-
Thanks Karen š I got involved through a mutual friend helping with a specific event, and then they kept inviting me back for meetings and stuff and I just helped where I could. I definitely felt nervous and anxious in the beginning but I’m glad I kept going and trying and I found I could connect with a couple of the people one on one. It helps…[Read more]
-
-
-
Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Jane, acknowledging your check-ins and follow-through with what you said you were going to do. It’s lovely!
-
Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
I’ve been keeping a food diary for the past few weeks, trying to withhold judgement and just record everything and go from there. I wrote out a huge list of goals around food, my body, weight etc. I realized that some were more outcomes that I wanted as a result of changing my relationship with eating vs the goal itself. Like feeling more…[Read more]
-
Love this distinction that you made. And love that you are finding a way to do it differently.
-
Love this, Jane and I can totally relate. Writing it down has helped me so much.
-
Thank you Karen. Writing is definitely giving me a lot of insight, just struggling with turning that insight into action…work in progress.
-
-
-
Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Wes, did you listen to the Course of Miracles Lesson #57? That one was super powerful.
-
Once. And now twice. Can you share what stood out for you? For me, it was another way of looking at the world, as opposite of the meaning I ascribe to it. I see it as a prison, ironic as I work in one. And that the opposite must be true. That the world I see as a prison is meant to set me free… but I’m deeply curious as to what you took from it.
-
Same…I really resonated with the prison piece and how we keep ourselves in that prison by what we are thinking. Good stuff!
-
-
-
Tami Coil posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
I continue to work with my physical goals this week. I tracked 11 miles last week and well on my way to complete 15 miles this week. My body is able, itās my mind that I am working on. In the past, I passed out twice and was taken to the hospital. So my process is working with my thoughts while I am working out. One day at a time, staying p…[Read more]
-
Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Self care this week has been a lot of taking care of my body in different ways. Stretching every night before bed, taking vitamins every day, going to the gym to run/walk, getting a haircut & new color, and using some new skin care products. It also included some spiritual care…coloring with my 4 year old niece, meditating, and listening to…[Read more]
-
This is it! It’s your commitment to the process that will make it different. If you commit to being different and dedicating yourself to this daily then you will create a shift for yourself. This is a whole new level of ownership and responsibility to your healing. I hear it in your words.
-
Thank you, yesterday was rough and I again found myself looking outside of myself to make it go away, but I went home to deal with it instead of going through a drive-thru. I am committed to doing this differently, even if I have to come here every day to affirm that!
-
-
Witnessing so much connection with yourself. Your mindfulness practice is such a beautiful example of ownership. Catching and Releasing all that doesn’t serve you and being kind to yourself in the process. You are creating a new way of being…..Yaaaa hoooooo! Keep on keeping on, my Friend.
-
Thank you Tami, catching and releasing…yes!! Doing that again and again these past couple of days. Grateful for your support!!
-
-
Beautiful! I love hearing about your progress.
-
-
Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
What do you intend to own this week?
-
Well, with the help of a blizzard and 12 inches of snow, I was able to meal prep for the week.I was stuck inside so I created my plan and then prepped it.
I am owning being conscious of what I put in my body and making choices to support my health.-
Thatās great, Tami. Love it.
-
Awesome Tami!
-
-
I intend to own my words this week. Iāve had a challenging two weeks at work and am starting to understand more the impact of my words. I really need to own what I am saying…even if itās something I shouldnāt have said.
-
I feel ya Karen, hope you have a good week!
-
Karen, I love your intention and ownering what you want to flow through you will. Supporting and cheering you on. I was chuckling this morning as I wrote out my focus areas for the week. I realized I was “telling on myself” in areas that I am ready to change. It’s a good thing to aware and awake to new ways of being.
-
-
I am going to own how i show up at work this week. My attitude toward it and any frustrating situations that come up, rather than expecting others to be a certain way.
-
Great ownership intentions!
-
-
Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Replay from our call Tuesday: https://s3.amazonaws.com/recoverylifemanagement/RLL2219.mp4
Thank you Misty and Wes for the great discussion on “Demonstrating Ownership.”-
Such a powerful discussion, thank you to all who participated. My takeaway was externalizing my small stories to get curious with what I am believing. So I can own my bigger story of truth. I realized some of my small stories are usually introjects from outside influences that then become my own story. One change I made this week was in the area…[Read more]
-
Great application of your learning.
-
-
Here’s the Demonstrating Ownership Process: https://s3.amazonaws.com/recoverylifemanagement/Ownership+Process.pdf
-
-
Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Sorry in advance for the excessive posting, but wanted to say after being home with the flu and having a fever two nights in a row, how absolutely glorious it was to really let myself feel the warmth of a really good, hot shower, washing my hair well and conditioning, and brushing my teeth…especially my teeth! I stood there at the sink, even…[Read more]
-
Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
My āscreen timeā was down 19% last week according to my iPhone report. Iāve been working on reducing it and trying to re-connect more with my family, friends, and co-workers. Feel like these little tools from Apple are so helpful to my recovery. When the message comes, I delight in my progress instead of shaming myself for my mistakes. A huge…[Read more]
-
Oh my gosh I’ve been embracing those tools lately too! I set the time limit for social media apps and it’s helped me be more mindful of how I spend my time. So glad you can delight in your progress!!
-
Great job finding tools that work for you guys!
-
Great job on awareness. Did you know that you can lock yourself out of your apps after a certain time limit? It sure shuts down mindless scrolling. I am glad you are delighting in your progress and giving yourself credit. Feels like worthiness to me!
-
Tami, I didnāt know that! Thanks. I will check it out.
-
-
-
Wes Richards posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Did a lot of arguining for my own limitations on today’s call. Not sure how I expect that story to align with my intention to express peace. That’s the story that I need to change. Thanks Bev and Misty for your compassionate guidance and support.
-
I like that I said “express” peace rather than “experience” it, unintentionally. I’d like to believe it’s a reflection of a shift towards ownership. I also like the point Bev raised that my presence here, in this circle, is an expression of myself as a spiritual being. I intend to align with myself experiencing myself that way.
-
Looking forward to listening to the replay. Your shares are always full of gold nuggets of growth for us all š
-
It’s a great awareness. Do you want to be arguing for your limitations or expressing your spiritual being. You can’t have both. Make a decision about what’s most important to you and align all your energy, action and intention behind it.
-
-
Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
My takeaway from the last call: Who am I without the labels?
My labels: Sexual Abuse Survivor, Addict, Psychiatric Patient, Troublemaker, Bad Girl, etc…
Without those labels I am a child of God, worthy of love and belonging from the moment I was born and regardless of what I do or don’t do throughout my life, beautiful woman with endless…[Read more]
-
Thank you for listening to the call and sharing your reflections. Just curious how life might be different if you focused on being a child of God, worthy of love and belonging as your birthright and creating from this knowing?
When I read your second paragraph a heaviness came in. It feels heavy and like hard work. And it feels like you are…[Read more]-
Karen, I love your honesty and your sharing of your process. I do see polarization between two parts. Wonder what the 3 rd way could be?
I think they call this paradox. The tension of two things and letting the 3rd way come forth………Just reflecting outloud…..Curious with you….-
Tami, thatās an interesting thought and something I will consider. Thank you! Never thought about a third perspective…
-
-
Bev, it is really heavy. I think that I still may be stuck in trying to prove my worth. Not sure. I think a good place for me to be lives in surrender. I donāt think I can get to where I need to be without it. Itās like I keep fighting and resisting, which is why itās not happening. Iām starting to pay attention to when I physically start t…[Read more]
-
-
Karen, I can relate to your struggle to let go of the labels for the same reasons of wanting them to keep working & fixing…I really appreciate your sharing of your answers… honoring where you’re at & supporting you here.
-
Thank you, Jane!
-
-
Karen, thank you for sharing your process. Acknowledging and relating with you that it’s difficult to remove the labels. For my part, I want to see my labels as a representation of a story that I need to release myself from. Its hard because I don’t know who I am without them but, if I’m truly honest with myself, I don’t know who I am with them…[Read more]
-
Thank you, Wes. That is very helpful.
-
-
-
Tami Coil posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Tami Coil posted an update a minute ago
Self Care this last week:
Tracking my days with how I am spending my timeā¦..
giving myself credit for the growth mindset choices. Specifically physical activity and making meals from scratch.
Having an honest conversation with my husband carefronting how we could meet needs in a more effective way. Huge a…[Read more]-
āOwning what is our together and separateā¦.HUGE.ā This is sounds huge!
I love the Gaga line, that made me lol.
You are beautiful! Love hearing you own it.-
Thank you…..feeling into this unknown territory with my marriage but so very grateful that I didn’t pick up his side.
Thanks for the reflection. I do feel beautiful.
-
-
Beautiful Tami, thanks for sharing your self care š
-
I love this so much, Tami. So much. I can relate. Iāve been doing similar things. I love dressing up now and being pretty in a way that feels authentic to me and for me only. Itās when the true beauty emerges. Beautiful to hear of your progress in all areas. Thank you for sharing. P.S. I SO love my yoga pants!!!
-
-
Tami Coil posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
I am been in such a flow lately. I am doing a lot of 3 foot tosses in the area of my intentions. In the area of core identity, I have been tracking on how I show up as a creator. I was stuck in a situation where I was triangulated with someone for a long time. I stepped out of it after really seeing how I kept getting snagged. It involved me…[Read more]
-
You are being so intentional and it’s paying off. And you are doing it differently and it’s paying off. So excited to see these immediate results when you do something differently in honor of your Authentic Self. Everything else works itself out. Keep rockin’ it!
-
Love it!
-
P.S. Read this again and noticed this line: āBut the rewards of being true to myself are worth the feelings of being uncomfortable.ā. YES! A thousand times yes.
-
-
-
Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Along the lines of what Bev wrote, I had an experience at work of forgiving myself over condemning myself. I participated in a committee meeting the other day and when i left i was judging myself for how I showed up. I felt like I had been rude, self-righteous and a bit of a know it all in the meeting. My first reaction was to complain about…[Read more]
-
Wow! What a quick turn around due to your awareness. You got to show up in better alignment with how you want to! So good.
-
I definitely feel like I’ve peeled a layer off and am looking at what’s underneath instead of only fighting surface issues.
-
-
I love your awareness, Jane. And allowing the process to be the process.
-
Thanks Tami
-
-
Thatās awesome, Jane. Iāve had similar situations at work lately, and it just feels like when I condemn myself that I am less productive. Iāve been practicing the make amends, do better, move on with awareness type of thing. What keeps me stuck sometimes is how other people receive my amends. When they donāt receive it well, I tend to punish…[Read more]
-
Yes, that’s a great point. I think that’s the hardest part for me is letting other people have their feelings because I take it all personally..
-
-
-
Bev Sartain posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Fear condemns and Love forgives….A Course In Miracles!
Are you condemning yourself daily or forgiving yourself daily? Which are you more committed to? Which do you want to be committed to? What needs to be different for you to do so?!-
I was definitely committed to condemning myself daily…i just recently realized that i committed to being sober daily but I hadn’t committed to my healing so I beat myself up daily instead. Since our last call I have committed to my healing and i’ve been much more gentle with myself when I don’t like the way I’m being I can be more curious and…[Read more]
-
This is huge! Thanks for this feedback. Committed to sobriety but not healing? That’s something I’d like to write about. Thank you for this!
-
I can’t wait to read what you write, it seems so obvious now but I hadn’t acknowledged it or been aware of that at all.
-
-
-
-
Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Self care this week has looked like:
meditation
journaling
therapy
keeping a dentist appt
buying myself good vitamins & taking them
doing yoga from youtube
š-
I have to say I’m enjoying taking a moment to focus on and acknowledge the things I’m doing that make me feel good, rather than only beating myself up and judging myself for all the other stuff I do or don’t do…
-
We want you to look for the evidence that you are taking care of yourself. There needs to be more commitment to what’s working then what’s not so you are doing a really good thing here for yourself. Way to stay consistent with your check-ins.
-
Yes, keeping track of my self-care commitment has helped me commit to being kind to myself and acknowledge that. I love when i notice that it’s been more than once a day lol.
-
-
This is awesome…
-
-
-
Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Iāve been avoiding the lab all week. Not sure why. Been resistant to it as if Iām avoiding something inside of me that needs addressed. Not sure what, but wanted to acknowledge it and post it for the sake of accountability. Iāve found myself feeling everything much more deeply and have been writing deeper thoughts and feelings relating to my…[Read more]
-
I am glad that you are being curious about what you are avoiding. Glad you are here to explore the process in a safe place.
-
Aw I get that Karen. I feel like it’s always a sign you’re about to experience a growth moment or breakthrough. Here to support you.
-
Yes, love your curiosity. This curiosity is what will support it in coming forward when the time is right for it to be supported.
-
-
Misty McLaughlin posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
Happy Friday everyone! I am feeling a shift in my energy this week – thank goodness!! This winter has brought me some darker days – more so than I have ever experienced before. It has shown me how to rest, relax and allow all that flows through. I don’t have to strive. I don’t have to fight. I don’t have to chase. I don’t have struggle. I…[Read more]
- Load More
Thanks for the question. It sent me on a “Quest” to why I am interested in mindset. I was wondering if there are any tips or teaching on getting to the “observer” self. I think what has been helpful for me, is not to believe everything I think. My mind is a messenger and doesn’t always bring to consciousness what is helpful. Having over 60,000…[Read more]
Great question…I think our call today will give you something to marinate on…
It always does:)