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Bev Sartain posted an update 7 years, 10 months ago
Today’s prompt: Do you spend most of your day in judgment or not? Be aware over the next few days how often you are in judgment, story or in limiting beliefs. Just notice…tell use what you notice.
I notice I spend most of my day in thought, and that most of the thoughts I have are a form of judgment. Some of the judgments are so subtle I barely recognize them (like fear can be a type of judgment). Others are quite obvious. So, yes, I’d say I spend more time in judgment than I was previously mindful of. And this includes, in fact is mostly comprised of, self judgment. Having this awareness, I can notice the story I’m telling myself sooner and choose to rewrite it, or to simply become aware of my present moment.
Like how you just allowed for the awareness and the shift, didn’t need to make yourself wrong about it.
Now that we’ve been talking about the loving essence and judgement and self limiting beliefs I’ve been much more aware when I am having judgemental thoughts. I would say it happens off and on throughout the day. Not constantly but periodically. When it’s about other people I can let go of the judgement more quickly than when it’s toward myself. But now I can actually start to identify self limiting beliefs as they come up compared to just acting on them unconsciously.
Awareness is EVERYTHING.
I spend a few times a week for no more tha 15 minutes before I self correct.
Incredible!
I do spend time in self judgement, but I also look at it and what’s causing and chose to change the story. For instance I have a relative I have been close to all my life. For some reason I can’t seem to do anything right in her eyes. I knew when I was going to tell her about my big move her reaction would be negative. In the past that would have made me judge and question myself, but now I just tell myself that I don’t have to believe what they say or think about my choices and I don’t have to judge or second guess my decision.
Happy to hear you are listening to yourself. I used to have this experience with my brother. I felt like he always judged my every move. In particular, after my dad died. I think he thought he had to fill that role for me. Interestingly enough…once I started to do my inner work and clear my own judgments, I felt like he judged me less. This wasn’t really the case, it just didn’t impact me any longer because it didn’t bump into my own judgments about myself. Now I experience his judgment as his own fear about stuff. It’s not about me and doesn’t bump into my stuff anymore because I don’t take it on as my own. I’d say great growth on your part Roxane. We can receive people’s feedback but we get to decide what we do with it!
Love your last thought Beverly! I do think the judgements from others come from a place within them they haven’t healed. It’s easier to look at others and make a judgement than to look at ourselves sometimes. I am learning to look within myself and the inner work is helping me to not take on others judgements of me, not judge myself and to not judge others. In the past, I would have tried to smooth things over for fear of rejection, but I am very slowly learning to not fear rejection as it keeps me in a disempowered state. I can’t believe how much I have grown in such short period of time.
It’s wonderful to hear you own your growth!
I see self-judgement but not constantly. I am learning to sit with my discomfort. I am realizing that the self-limiting beliefs about myself are not true. I have discovered my true purpose and with that has come more confidence in myself. I have always doubted myself about everything. But because of the inner journey I have been on many doubts have been released. I know I can be a successful Recovery Coach. I have the lived experience and have gained book knowledge! I can do this! I am also learning how to let go of the judgments of others regarding this path I am on. My family keeps asking me when I am going to get a real job! I am beginning to stand up for myself!
I’m curious…what would you need to see from your coaching business to feel that it is a “real job” to you Jennifer? What would it look like?
I see my coaching business as a real business. It is my family, especially my parents who do not view it as a real job. I am now finally beginning to stand up and tell them that it is a real job. It is just taking time to build a client base.