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Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 5 months ago
I’m loving this month’s work. Bringing up healing vs coping helped me have a big awareness of when I’m in a healing space vs when I’m coping. I can tell when I’m actively engaged in process and using the tools we’ve been given I am on a healing path, and when I am not, I am coping. And there’s a time for both. I have picked up some good coping skills in the past two years like journaling, running, meditation and I still use some coping skills that I would like to leave behind. But I recognize they all serve or have served a purpose. Bev, I really appreciate you doing the “I forgive myself” and “the truth is” statements with us on the last call. I closed my eyes and did them with you and really resonated with a lot of the ones around Denise’s comment, so thank you Denise too. I’ve been doing some digging around my feelings about my father while I acknowledge my desire to find out more actual information about him. Forgiving myself for buying into a lot of misunderstandings and allowing myself to be curious too.
When one of us heals, we all heal. I love that you can stay curious while you work on clearing some of the old misunderstandings. You can heal yourself around this situation with your dad whether you have a relationship with him or not. My dad had passed when I heal my relationship with him which was incredible and completely life-altering. I could have carried on with a story about him and our relationship or make peace with it all and make space for what I really wanted to create. We don’t have to have a bondage to the past unless we set it up that way.