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  • Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 5 months ago

    Hi everyone! I’m way behind but I worked on some things tonight. Here’s a list of some of my judgments. Also, I realized tonight after reading some of your shares that my unfinished business that I need to work on the most right now is resolving the relationship with my brother whom I haven’t spoken to in over five years.

    My judgments:

    I judge myself for how I interact with others, for not achieving what I feel I should have achieved thus far at this point in my life, for not wanting to be in the “group.” because I like to be by myself a lot of the time.

    I judge myself for feeling emotion, especially anger, for not wanting to interact with my family, or have much of a relationship with them at all.

    I judge myself for not understanding others and what they need, and for being asleep for so long and not present enough to really “see” them and be there for them.

    I judge myself for not being able to give others what they need because of my mental health issues.

    I judge myself for not working enough and not making enough money to really support myself on my own.

    I’ll keep working on the stuff I’m behind on. Thank you all for your shares!

    • Great start! And know this space here for you when you need it. How do you judge yourself for how you interact? What is it that you say to yourself? What are the needs that you aren’t meeting for yourself? What do you say to yourself about not working enough? These questions will lead you to a deeper level of judgment that needs to be resolved. And acknowledging you that you are noticing that the relationship with your brother needs to be resolved as it is unfinished business for now. I always like to start with an intention when something feels too big to engage. For now, I would think about what your intention is with that relationship. Great work!

    • Great list Karen. Wishing you much growth as you resolve your unfinished business.