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Thank you both! Speaking of equanimity, I felt a little resistance (the opposite of equanimity?) to answering your question about being more specific about the direction I was heading physically, which I was kind of vague about in the post above. Ultimately, I decided in that moment to express what was true for me and that was that I was looking to put on some size. There was a bit of embarrassment or shame around admitting this, lol. I felt judgments about it being perceived as a goal reflective of vanity, about it being perceived as a pathetic attempt at being more masculine, about myself not being worthy of it, sort of as in “who am I to think I can do this?”… But, after considering those judgments, truth is I see it as something I’m confident I can do rather than it being something I need to achieve in order to deem myself confident. It represents an uplevel and a challenge to reveal my innate confidence rather than having to develop it, or to be confident as opposed to having to gain confidence first. And I see it as very much connected to my goals moving forward. But back to equanimity, or moving beyond equanimity like we discussed, I can, rather than being neutral, just laugh at myself, my judgments specifically, and not take this all so seriously. Whatever my reasons or whatever my goals, why can’t I just own them unapologetically? That feels a lot more congruent with living in possibility than creating stories around my judgments that impede me taking meaningful action.