Wes Richards
@wawrich75gmail-com
Active 1 year, 7 months ago-
Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 7 months ago
Glad you’re back! Hope you had an awesome time in San Diego. Loved your dialogue. My dialogue is mostly done but I’ve been judging it which is keeping me from completing it.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 7 months ago
Thanks Jane!
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 7 months ago
Thanks!
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 7 months ago
It only gets in the way when it remains unconscious. When it’s recognized for what it is, it opens up possibilities for healing by showing where healing is needed. When it remains unconscious and habitual, the judgment becomes a story we tell ourselves about how we’re not worthy of healing or we’re not capable of healing or healing is too much…[Read more]
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I love this because you get to decide what you do with it. That’s some serious ownership.
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Yeah that was helpful Wes. I like looking at it as seeing where the healing is needed.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 7 months ago
Appreciate the update. Glad you’re home safe and damage wasn’t worse.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 7 months ago
Maybe to recognize anger as an emotion that needs to be examined compassionately and deeply to see what lies beneath it. Is it anger or some other emotion that doesn’t feel safe to express? And how can I use anger or any emotion to bring myself into greater alignment with my Self?
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Really good awareness. Anger is coming forward to be learned from.
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Wes Richards posted an update 7 years, 7 months ago
My 3 foot toss around emotion was attending a local men’s group put on by family and community services. I went last night and openly shared my feelings and challenges right off the opening of the meeting. I was extremely well received and my contributions were appreciated and validated. I’ll be attending these meetings in the future and I may…[Read more]
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Awesome action Wes! It took a lot of courage to attend the group and share.
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Thanks!
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Wow Wes! That’s so brave of you! Very inspiring!!
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Thanks Jane!
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Wes Richards posted an update 7 years, 7 months ago
One thing I heard before and again recently is that the only acceptable emotion for a man to express is anger. It’s not a belief I knowingly subscribed to but as I have it some thought I realized that although I’m not an angry person outwardly (like at all), part of the reason I don’t express emotion is because I do hold that belief. I don’t…[Read more]
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Thanks for sharing your process. You know yourself well. If you were reading this from one of your peers in the group, what might their spiritual learning be from this experience?
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Maybe to recognize anger as an emotion that needs to be examined compassionately and deeply to see what lies beneath it. Is it anger or some other emotion that doesn’t feel safe to express? And how can I use anger or any emotion to bring myself into greater alignment with my Self?
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Really good awareness. Anger is coming forward to be learned from.
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Wes Richards posted an update 7 years, 8 months ago
Around the physical level this past month I think my biggest learning is that I’m capable of big change. Not to say I’ve experienced that big change. But I’m starting to see how all the little pieces and small changes are slowly leading to a more desired outcome. Neutrality has been a big part of this as well because I’ve used it to release my…[Read more]
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Seems like the physical level gives us all a great opportunity to see change. I totally agree that the small changes lead to bigger changes. I’m learning that I actually appreciate the smaller changes because they are indicators to the truth that I am changing. I have to say that hearing about everyone’s experience has really helped me acknowledge…[Read more]
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
I still have a lot to dialogue about with shame. In particular, undeserved shame. And I recently quit a behavior I was using unknowingly to avoid feeling my feelings. So this months topic is perfect timing for me.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
So happy and grateful for your happiness and success! Playing in possibility is something I intend to spend more time doing.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
Love how you expanded “tolerate” beyond the context I used it in to encompass other areas of my life that I hadn’t yet applied it to. Powerful! I’ve been tolerating so much more than this pain in my leg and now I see this tolerance for the resistance it actually is. Whereas I may or may not have before but now I can key in on that feeling of…[Read more]
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It’s an interesting thing to think about. What are we tolerating in our lives that needs to be changed? It’s great for all of us to think about.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
Great reframe! I like it.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
Glad you’re back Chas. Great job keeping up the work on yourself through everything going on around you.
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Wes Richards posted an update 7 years, 8 months ago
I’m off to a late start but I’m noticing some wins in the physical area. I’ve tracked my diet for 3 days now. This is showing me where I can make changes that will bring me in under my calorie allowance each day. My water intake has steadily increased for the past 4 days. I’ve done yoga the past 2 days now and already notice significant…[Read more]
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Yes, progress not all or nothing results. This is fantastic progress! You are being mindful,conscious and aware. That’s great! The word or experience of “tolerating” jumped out at me when I read it. You don’t have to tolerate life, your body, etc. anymore. Learn to enjoy it little by little as you become more and more aware of the truth of who you are.
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Love how you expanded “tolerate” beyond the context I used it in to encompass other areas of my life that I hadn’t yet applied it to. Powerful! I’ve been tolerating so much more than this pain in my leg and now I see this tolerance for the resistance it actually is. Whereas I may or may not have before but now I can key in on that feeling of…[Read more]
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It’s an interesting thing to think about. What are we tolerating in our lives that needs to be changed? It’s great for all of us to think about.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
Love it. Thanks for sharing Jennifer. Happy for you.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
I like the reference to not making things logical. To me, this resonates with not assigning meaning to things. I like the idea of neutrality being a sensing of things as they are.
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
Great point! I like that perspective on it. Feeling like I’m a victim to it means I’m not owning my responsibility over my experience. Thanks
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Wes Richards posted a new activity comment 7 years, 8 months ago
I agree with Jane. And this is what I would like it to be for me. I do notice myself defaulting to pushing my feelings aside and pretending they’re not important. I often mistake this for neutrality. But on having these realizations, neutrality can be redefined to mean not rejecting the experience that caused the unwanted feelings but rather…[Read more]
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That’s a great distinction Wes.
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I love this distinction as well!
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Well put Wes!
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Wes Richards posted an update 7 years, 8 months ago
I’ve been noticing resistance coming up in the form of excuses. Family life, long work hours, and general chronic unexplained exhaustion. My water intake is the only positive change I’ve made so far. Today I bought an online program called 21 day yoga shred for men. I’ll commit to starting this on my first day off on Thursday. For today,…[Read more]
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Remember that you get to set up your life, you aren’t a victim to it. This could be a huge shift for you in truly owning how you set up your life. Way to get back to action even though you are noticing mind chatter.
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Great point! I like that perspective on it. Feeling like I’m a victim to it means I’m not owning my responsibility over my experience. Thanks
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Thank you so much for bringing this forward Wes. If judgement is coming up, I suggest you do an extension of the dialogue and now dialogue with judgment. Yup, you heard me right. This is the perfect example of how you can use the dialogue to work with what is coming up for you, which you expressed as judgment. Get curious and ask your judgment…[Read more]