Karen Haradem
@kalyhaatt-net
Active 2 months, 3 weeks ago-
Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Thank you, Jane!
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Tami, that’s an interesting thought and something I will consider. Thank you! Never thought about a third perspective…
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Bev, it is really heavy. I think that I still may be stuck in trying to prove my worth. Not sure. I think a good place for me to be lives in surrender. I don’t think I can get to where I need to be without it. It’s like I keep fighting and resisting, which is why it’s not happening. I’m starting to pay attention to when I physically start t…[Read more]
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Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
My takeaway from the last call: Who am I without the labels?
My labels: Sexual Abuse Survivor, Addict, Psychiatric Patient, Troublemaker, Bad Girl, etc…
Without those labels I am a child of God, worthy of love and belonging from the moment I was born and regardless of what I do or don’t do throughout my life, beautiful woman with endless…[Read more]
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Love it!
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P.S. Read this again and noticed this line: “But the rewards of being true to myself are worth the feelings of being uncomfortable.”. YES! A thousand times yes.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
This is awesome…
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Love the name. I felt a sense of peace and calm wash over me just reading it.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Great job, Jane. Very happy to read you are practicing your self-care.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Thanks for sharing. Definitely something to lean into…focusing on the patterns that work for us…love it.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
This is wonderful, Tami. So great to hear about your connection with your daughter and your practice of self-care and saying no. Cheering you on 🙂
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Karen Haradem posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago
I’ve been avoiding the lab all week. Not sure why. Been resistant to it as if I’m avoiding something inside of me that needs addressed. Not sure what, but wanted to acknowledge it and post it for the sake of accountability. I’ve found myself feeling everything much more deeply and have been writing deeper thoughts and feelings relating to my…[Read more]
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I am glad that you are being curious about what you are avoiding. Glad you are here to explore the process in a safe place.
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Aw I get that Karen. I feel like it’s always a sign you’re about to experience a growth moment or breakthrough. Here to support you.
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Yes, love your curiosity. This curiosity is what will support it in coming forward when the time is right for it to be supported.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Words really seem inadequate for these situations in our life. It’s so significant and life changing in many ways. Here for you. Bev, to listen and hold you up, whatever you need.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
That’s great, Jane. I totally get it!
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Yes, it was definitely my younger self. I’m starting to feel those sobs coming up just thinking about it now. My parents have always had a volatile, violent relationship and they would each degrade each other when each was alone with me, trying to put me against each one and I was always always always so scared that Mom was going to kill h…[Read more]
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
I love your list, Jane. You know, it takes a lot of courage to even attempt to write a list like that, so to me you are showing tremendous courage and I applaud you. I also feel overwhelmed with my list. Totally get it.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Thank you so much, Tami. I appreciate the light sent my way.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Thanks, Bev. I think I did a good job of not being defensive or justifying past behavior. It was a guilt trip for things that happened several years ago. I just calmly stated that I don’t do that anymore and I feel like I’m a good daughter. It has definitely triggered me, though, which I’m finding frustrating, but I am dealing with it. I thi…[Read more]
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I’m curious where were you triggered? Your mind, your body, the younger you, somewhere else? I would love for you to start noticing any body sensations so that you can start de-identifying from them and not make yourself wrong for old stuff coming up and through. It’s great you can even acknowledge the trigger and explore where it’s happening for…[Read more]
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Yes, it was definitely my younger self. I’m starting to feel those sobs coming up just thinking about it now. My parents have always had a volatile, violent relationship and they would each degrade each other when each was alone with me, trying to put me against each one and I was always always always so scared that Mom was going to kill h…[Read more]
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Thanks Jane 🙂
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Karen, Witnessing you honoring your own experience and creating boundaries of your thought process vs. your parents. May Clarity and Compassion surround your discoveries of your own truth and value.
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Thank you so much, Tami. I appreciate the light sent my way.
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
As I’m going about the rest of my day, I seem to be processing more of what was going on when I was talking to my parents, and acknowledging the feelings that are coming up now. It’s the same dynamic it always has been. My mother is drinking, my father is lonely and codependent. Giving myself the space to acknowledge my feelings about all of…[Read more]
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I think that’s great that you are able to acknowledge and feel your feelings around that experience and get enough space from it to do so.
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Thanks Jane 🙂
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Karen, Witnessing you honoring your own experience and creating boundaries of your thought process vs. your parents. May Clarity and Compassion surround your discoveries of your own truth and value.
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Thank you so much, Tami. I appreciate the light sent my way.
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Agreed, it’s great that you are feeling your feelings about this. I know for my process, I call out the behavior to my mom in a loving way (if I need to). It’s tough being around people who haven’t done the work on themselves. I find it best to pick my battles so to speak. That’s not really the right term because I don’t view it as a battle. I…[Read more]
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Thanks, Bev. I think I did a good job of not being defensive or justifying past behavior. It was a guilt trip for things that happened several years ago. I just calmly stated that I don’t do that anymore and I feel like I’m a good daughter. It has definitely triggered me, though, which I’m finding frustrating, but I am dealing with it. I thi…[Read more]
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I’m curious where were you triggered? Your mind, your body, the younger you, somewhere else? I would love for you to start noticing any body sensations so that you can start de-identifying from them and not make yourself wrong for old stuff coming up and through. It’s great you can even acknowledge the trigger and explore where it’s happening for…[Read more]
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Yes, it was definitely my younger self. I’m starting to feel those sobs coming up just thinking about it now. My parents have always had a volatile, violent relationship and they would each degrade each other when each was alone with me, trying to put me against each one and I was always always always so scared that Mom was going to kill h…[Read more]
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Karen Haradem posted a new activity comment 6 years, 2 months ago
Yes ma’am, I sure can 🙂
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Thank you for listening to the call and sharing your reflections. Just curious how life might be different if you focused on being a child of God, worthy of love and belonging as your birthright and creating from this knowing?
When I read your second paragraph a heaviness came in. It feels heavy and like hard work. And it feels like you are…[Read more]
Karen, I love your honesty and your sharing of your process. I do see polarization between two parts. Wonder what the 3 rd way could be?
I think they call this paradox. The tension of two things and letting the 3rd way come forth………Just reflecting outloud…..Curious with you….
Tami, that’s an interesting thought and something I will consider. Thank you! Never thought about a third perspective…
Bev, it is really heavy. I think that I still may be stuck in trying to prove my worth. Not sure. I think a good place for me to be lives in surrender. I don’t think I can get to where I need to be without it. It’s like I keep fighting and resisting, which is why it’s not happening. I’m starting to pay attention to when I physically start t…[Read more]
Karen, I can relate to your struggle to let go of the labels for the same reasons of wanting them to keep working & fixing…I really appreciate your sharing of your answers… honoring where you’re at & supporting you here.
Thank you, Jane!
Karen, thank you for sharing your process. Acknowledging and relating with you that it’s difficult to remove the labels. For my part, I want to see my labels as a representation of a story that I need to release myself from. Its hard because I don’t know who I am without them but, if I’m truly honest with myself, I don’t know who I am with them…[Read more]
Thank you, Wes. That is very helpful.