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  • Jane Cornelius posted an update 6 years, 2 months ago

    Along the lines of what Bev wrote, I had an experience at work of forgiving myself over condemning myself. I participated in a committee meeting the other day and when i left i was judging myself for how I showed up. I felt like I had been rude, self-righteous and a bit of a know it all in the meeting. My first reaction was to complain about the meeting to other coworkers so they would validate me being annoyed and i wouldn’t feel guilty for how I felt, but then I got curious about why I showed up the way i did, and was compassionate toward myself. I decided to forgive myself, and create the intention to show up differently next time. I intend to show up more open, less defensive, with curiosity and kindness. And later that day I got an opportunity to communicate something with one of the committee members and I showed up from a much better place. I felt really grateful that I can be forgiving and practice new ways of being.

    • Wow! What a quick turn around due to your awareness. You got to show up in better alignment with how you want to! So good.

    • I love your awareness, Jane. And allowing the process to be the process.

    • That’s awesome, Jane. I’ve had similar situations at work lately, and it just feels like when I condemn myself that I am less productive. I’ve been practicing the make amends, do better, move on with awareness type of thing. What keeps me stuck sometimes is how other people receive my amends. When they don’t receive it well, I tend to punish myself and get stuck. So I’m letting them have their feelings and not letting it affect me, knowing I have done my part. It’s okay to make mistakes.

      • Yes, that’s a great point. I think that’s the hardest part for me is letting other people have their feelings because I take it all personally..